Part of the Passably Perfect Philosophy is to start building small habits that can turn into bigger ones. I’m a naturally anxious person, and the anxiety of failure keeps me from trying new things consistently.
It’s time for a change.
Everyone is talking about fresh starts, a new decade, how New Year’s Resolutions work or don’t work, and it can become white noise very quickly. I know that for me, even the beginning of a week or a month can feel like a fresh start. I’m very hesitant to try anything new in the middle of the week. While I think a resolution for a whole year is probably unrealistic for me, I do believe in goals that can build better habits, so I’m going to focus on specific things during each month.
I’m starting small with three things:
1. Teach my puppy to stop barking. I have a 4-month-old mini golden doodle, and she’s so stinking cute I can’t stand it. She has one really bad habit already, though: she barks whenever you walk in the door, or when she wants your undivided attention. She doesn’t stop. I did some research and have a couple of techniques that I’m going to exercise every day
2. Exercise for 30 minutes 5 days a week. I am so bad at exercise! I am not athletic at all, but I know that I feel better when I’m more active, but I also work long hours and have a long commute, so it can be really hard for me to find the motivation to spend my precious home-hours working out. Just as a start, I’m giving myself some leeway to fail a little bit. I don’t have to get in shape overnight, I just have to build the habit. Small workouts to start with will help me build a foundation to begin truly improving my health and body as the year progresses
3. Stop complaining at work. As an anxious person afraid of vulnerability, I have found that it is much more comfortable to bond with a coworker over how bad your day or week is rather than tell them good things that happened. I don’t like sharing positive things at work because I feel like they’re too personal, mostly because they’re individual experiences rather than collective experiences. The problem is, complaining sucks: I start to dread going back to work when I’m actually lucky enough to have a job that I enjoy; I feel more toxic and anxious when I complain on a regular basis. Instead, I’ve decided to start talking about potential solutions when I feel like complaining or finding something positive to praise about a situation rather than focus on the bad. It’s going to require a lot of creativity, and I think this will be the most difficult goal in my January Set.
So there you have it: my January Goals. I’ll keep you updated on how they are going, and start thinking of how I can build on them. Feel free to share some of your goals in 2020, I’d love to hear them!